It didn’t start out to have [someone else] create a big discussion about me on their blog…
… it started as a way for me to open up about a very private part of my life, even though the exact copy of my words are already fully public on [someone else's] blog.
I made the mistake of posting the original comment I did on the [other person's] blog in the very first place (February 2008). I acknowledged my disappointment in myself (and of my rash decision to write about something I wasn’t 100% comfortable to share) in the post I made a few days ago.
When I bared my heart in that post, I intended to give a reference point so readers would know what the heck I was talking about… and oops, it created a trackback to MY WORDS on the [other person's] blog. I’m now apparently a stalker for referencing what I SAID… hummm*
Eons and eons ago, in a Blogosphere far, far away…
The Big Drama got this all started - and all because [the other person] would’ve rather have eaten [her] words than own them.
All the draahhhma went down then, and caused a wake of awesome page hits and traffic to my site.
Eventually [the other person] emailed me a ‘this isn’t a threat‘ threat (April 2008) in reference to [her] EIGHT public comments on the Big Drama. [She] said,
“I would also suggest you privatize the whole exchange. That’s up to you though. If you feel it should be left up for public eye, I will probably reconsider doing the same with select comments on my blog as well.”
Yeah, well, I took the email suggestion as the [other person] trying to intimidate me into deleting my own posts. My response to that ‘request’ was as follows:
“…your comments, in their original format, will remain on my blog to protect my intellectual copyrights and serve as proof of initiation of the communication exchange between you and I. If you feel the need to ‘unprotect’ certain comments on your own blog out of spite, I can’t change that.
As I told you before, anyone can request removal of links on my website to copyrighted material, but anything an individual has chosen to say in a public comment on my blog aren’t ones I’ll remove based on “this isn’t a threat” threats.”
Months passed, and I finally decided to share the aforementioned very private part of my life with you. I password-protected it, not to deceive the [other person] but to protect what little of myself left that I had to protect.**
What did that get me?
A blog post by [the other person] dedicated to yours truly!
So, I possibly should’ve heeded the warnings of those informing me about the [other person's] obsession with me and maybe not read her most recent RETARDED (yes, I said that) insanity. But, I’m not strong-willed enough to not, so I took a peek for kicks and giggles.***
I now realize (horror of horrors!) that I am just not liked. Boo. Fucking. Hoo.
I’ve been publically outed as someone who’s “words are selfish, spiteful and downright despicable sometimes, especially from an adoption standpoint” but worst yet, I’m a LIAR (because I must’ve told the [other person] things “that if they were made public, none of you would continue to be her friend“).
Lemme show you to the door, BTW, if you’re not my friend anymore. Or at the very least, offer you examples of my awful adoption viewpoints for you to criticize.
The Bottom Line
I made ONE comment on [the other person's] blog, which I politely asked to have privatized (in FEBRUARY 2008) LONG before the Big Drama (April 2008). Therefore, I draw the following conclusion:
Her re-publication of my comment was purely and simply out of spite, plain and simple.
And hey, her bottom line is that she has the same right as I do, to publish/maintain any public comments made on HER blog. I get it - but please don’t confuse me with your trust when it’s shallow (at best) to begin with? Re-publishing something out of SPITE? You’re ever so innocent.
As for me -
I don’t, and won’t apologize for my public blog posts or opinions. If you don’t agree with me then go away. It’s really that simple. I’m not here to make friends, I’m here to blog without guilt.
Let The Big Drama Number Two commence.
* P.S. I’m now stalking [the other person's] blog because I used her “the NEW blog address, not the old one” when I was referencing my own comment. That proves I am DEFINITELY stalking myself.
** P.P.S. Who am I kidding? I’ve un-password protected it because 1) you can read it on the [other person's] blog anyway and, 2) so the [other person] can’t make assumptions about my intent on posting it in the first place.
*** P. P.P.S. Oh, whoops, now I guess I am stalking the [other person] since I checked out [her] new post at the urging and emails from concerned parties. Darn. Guess ya got me there.
P.P.P.P.S. Salt, wound -
The [other person] said, “1. Although I may sound judgemental [sic] at times, I don’t judge you. Really, sometimes I swear you and I are the same person. 2. I love you. You are a good mom. And a good friend. And a good adoption triad person.“
2008/08/15 5:37
Who is that photo of Krissi ? and who said that about being the same person ?
Ive been in a blog war myself.
Its great for ratings and traffic though ;)
http://adoptedjane.blogspot.com/’s last blog post..Enna Barreto And The House Of Horrors
2008/08/15 9:30
The internet is stupid, this has been proven again and again. For example, while trimming my Livejournal friends list down one day, I missed a name. I went back a day later and deleted it and the person took great offense. My polite response as to why this happened was not accepted and neither was my brutally honest response. The poster in question came up with their own response that ended with me being accused of have psychic powers that I use for evil. And, now every time I make a post in a blog she belongs to that she doesn’t like, she jumps up to call me a drama whore who love to start things. The easiest thing to do now is to just stop addressing it. Leave it alone and take the high road. It may be hard, but people will slowly realize that you are no longer flogging this issue while the other party is.
2008/08/15 12:48
@Elizabeth -
“The internet is stupid”
Well, I guess one could say ‘what would you expect from something Al Gore invented?’ LOL
“me being accused of have psychic powers that I use for evil”
OMG, I’m so, sooooo sorry I said that, but that was the day I was on that big acid trip and I thought everyone had psychic powers.
No, but yeah - been there, done that with the LiveJournal drama, too. Stupid people are just stupid.
“Leave it alone and take the high road. It may be hard, but people will slowly realize that you are no longer flogging this issue while the other party is.”
You’re absolutely right, and I know/knew that. I got really irritated that the [other person] (who sends me dozens upon dozens of emails proclaiming she’s through with me) blogged about me for no other reason than to continue to badger me. Yes, I referenced her blog, but only because MY WORDS were on it.
Gah. Fun times!
K2
2008/08/15 13:28
@Jane -
“Who is that photo of, Krissi?”
Me and the [other person].
“…and who said that about being the same person?”
The [other person] said that to me. Contradiction in the [other person's] blog is a bitch, isn’t it?
So now you see why I can’t do a darn thing about it. Just like I told you :)
“Ive been in a blog war myself. Its great for ratings and traffic though ;)”
It is good for traffic, yes, but I try to avoid them because they are a pain in the butt. Sometimes, I suppose, when other’s don’t understand the general rules of… um, adulthood (?) wars happen anyway.
… and I stooped to the [other person's] level on this one and played along. Shame on me.
K2
2008/08/15 20:07
Oh :( you two knew each other in real life too ?
that is REALLY sad then. Even More so.
I agree with the other poster above, take the high road…I did do it i tried, and they still kept coming after me, and I kept biting back, I just couldn’t seem to help myself.
But eventually I put my foot down and said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. I wiped all info about them on my blog. They still kept stuff up about me but I thought who cares. It will eventually be buried.
Anyway The best thing is not to ever visit their blog. That is the hardest to do because you want to see what they are saying about you…
But its the best thing…
Its a shame they wont remove your comment/post then you could remove all the crap as well
http://adoptedjane.blogspot.com/’s last blog post..Enna Barreto And The House Of Horrors
2008/08/17 9:25
@Jane -
Yes, we knew each other IRL for a short time after knowing each other online for about four years prior.
“I agree with the other poster above, take the high road…”
Absolutely, and I agree. With the exception of needing to defend myself now, I haven’t visited the [other person's] blog in months (only exception was to quote my own words on the post a few days ago).
“Its a shame they wont remove your comment/post then you could remove all the crap as well”
It doesn’t matter anymore if the [other person] doesn’t remove my comment. As for removing all of hers on my blog, I won’t do it because I really believe she wanted me to remove MY POSTS on MY BLOG (which weren’t about HER in the first place) as well as her comments (and all the other comments as well.)
Ah, such is drama. It will go away on it’s own, eventually :)
K2
2008/10/04 6:47
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